Quiet Beginnings
how Hauswarm thinks about the first fifteen minutes of a client's gathering
My sister Alyssa and I created Hauswarm a year ago. Its genesis was largely fueled by my love for design, lifelong passion for hosting, and a growing realization that our struggles with community often stem from not not having models of what sustained community looks like from moment to moment.
I’m currently a PhD student at Georgia Tech studying dialogue within expert teams. My path this past decade took me from studying psychology and linguistics at Harvard to spending summers in Europe exploring culture and connection, and eventually to the London School of Economics for Social and Cultural Psychology. It was there that I finally found the language—and the research—to articulate something I'd been fascinated by for years:
Conversation is emergent.
What do we mean by that? Simply this:
You can't force meaningful conversation to happen. You can only create the conditions where truth is more likely to surface… at the right moment, by the right person, and in a way that pulls people in more than it pushes glances away.
At Hauswarm, we help clients design gatherings where something real can happen. We’re not event planners, but conversation architects. We work best with those who already have the right people coming together but want something deeper to emerge. That could be a genuine connection, a breakthrough reframing of a problem, or an important decision that would otherwise be put off for another year or two.
What Our Design Is Doing (Quietly)
Before planning anything — whether it's an intimate dinner, a community dialogue, or a high-stakes strategy session — Hauswarm always starts with one essential question for the host:
What do you want to emerge from this gathering?
Not just what you want people to do, but what you want them to feel. What needs to be said that usually goes unspoken?
Most hosts don't think to ask these questions. It's not that they don't care. Usually, when hosting, we’re caught up in the practical details: the guest list, the parking situation, the menu, Arin’s disdain for strawberries, and making sure everyone looks like they're having a good time. At Hauswarm — we take ownership of what makes the gathering echo in guests’ heads, make a feature in their next journal entry, and be remembered years later. In other words, we’re focused on what I half-seriously call the higher levels of Maslow's Hierarchy of Hospitality (I'll unpack that whole theory another day, don’t worry).

The First Fifteen
The opening minutes of any gathering set everything in motion. That's why at Hauswarm, we typically begin with something unexpected—often a quiet task or tactile anchor.
Why? Because in group settings, most of us fall into predictable patterns: We lead with our professional credentials. We talk to fill uncomfortable silences. We gravitate toward familiar faces.
Our job is to disrupt these scripts without creating discomfort.
While there's always space for traditional introductions, we create an environment where it feels just as natural to:
Simply observe quietly for a while
Comment on what someone else is doing
Ask a question that might seem out of place in other situations

We design to avoid the usual pitfalls:
Feeling pressured to speak before you're ready
Leading with your job title or résumé
Pretending to be busy when you're not sure where to stand
Because what a conversation becomes is shaped, first and foremost, by what it's allowed not to be.
If you're curious about how we might design your next gathering — or if you simply want to discuss the art of crafting the infrastructure for intentional dialogue — we’d love to hear from you. Reach out to me at kayla@hauswarm.com.




Goodness!
HMW hauswarm a MODA Catalyst sesh?!?